12 Tips to Surviving Tough Times in Your Marriage
Marriage
holds a vital role in anyone's life; it is one of the best feelings to be with
someone to whom you love. This journey is very special for both of the partners
who share such a good bond but there may come a time where you may feel
disheartened or devastated because of some of the other personal reasons. You
may feel alone and depressed also, but that is probably for the short time, you
can fix it if you really want to because "when there is a will there is a
way". In this article, there are some of the tips which you should keep in
mind before you conclude anything regarding your married life and how you can
survive through the tough times.
1. Your Perceptions
You
have right to put your perceptions but you should check them once you think or
relate to any circumstance. Your point of view may differ from your partner and
this very reason can be the reason for this. But you should put your
perceptions on your favor while understanding others and that is the way to
survive in hard times without getting hurt.
2. See Positive Aspects
Try
to catch up positive aspects of these situations, I remember my mom used to say
that “You are a real gem if you know how to smile even in your hard times” and
that is the true thing which is applicable when you feel low. Surround yourself
with good vibes or you can set goals and inspirations (they can be related to
relationship or life).
3. Stop Blaming
You
should stop blaming yourself or your partner for all the things that are
happening in your life. You both are responsible but sometimes situations are
different and due to some misunderstandings, you may lead to this conclusion.
Blaming is not a real solution to it, by blaming you may approach negativity
which is not fruitful.
4. Understanding the Situation
You
should probably try to understand the situations and the reason which is
resulting in these feelings of yours. There may be some reasons, that’s why you
are facing these circumstances. Tough time will come and go and so the
situations but once you get to know the reason or if you are able to understand
the situation, then half of your problem are solved.
5. How Much You Have Made
Sometimes
tough time knocks on your door when you are not ready to accept it and this may
make you feel weak. But you can feel good by looking back at your relationship,
see how much you have made it and you both are good enough to tackle any
situation together. Commit to some positive changes in your life, if your
relationship needs some change then you should be the change for it. When you
are willing to change yourself then you have opened a way to change your spouse
as well. Never get afraid of being changed because this is what a life is all
about.
6. Hold Yourself
Hold
on for few time and check if you were responsible enough. Sometimes time is
responsible for the tough phase of the marriage, that doesn’t mean that it
cannot be fixed rather that void can be fulfilled by your better half and you
should know that no one can complete you except that one person.
Sometimes
situations get worse and we stuck to it, we are not able to find a way out of
it. You may feel that there is no end to it but it is really not the end. You
just need to get up and support yourself and add meaning to your own life.
Accept the fact that your life is with your partner and things will get
better.
8. Give Some Time
Time
is not only a good healer but it is also the one which helps things to work
out. Tough time heals with the ease of time that means the tough time will get
vanish with time but all you need to do is, wait for the perfect time. You all
may have heard this beautiful quote that “things come to you at a perfect time”
and you need to wait for that absolute time. You should give space to you and
your partner to make things happen.
9. Surround Yourself with Good
Vibes
When
everything seems wrong to select a good song which makes you feel happy. In
this life, it is really important to surround yourself with good vibes and hard
times demand it the most. Just make yourself feel better by doing the things
that make you happy, here you have to be a bit selfish because that is the only
solution to cut off from the hard situations of life. There are ample of
problems in life but there is nothing bad if you smile while facing them, let
your happiness stay alive. Don’t let hard times change smiley curves of your
lips.
Distance
can be the reason for affecting your relationship in a bad way, so you should
burn the distance which is making an interruption in your bond. Try to fix and
put efforts which can make the situation better.
11. Commitment
You
should always remember that the most important and vital element of love is
commitment; successful relationships are made when you have faith in each
other. So, have faith in yourself, on your partner and time because time is the
great medicine.
12. Let Them Be with You
Sometimes
we need someone to share and when hard time comes to us they are essential so,
if you have any friend and if your partner is putting efforts to be with you
then let them be with you.
