6 Ways to Filter What You Say to Your Husband
“Words
satisfy the soul as food satisfies the stomach; the right words on person’s
lips bring satisfaction”. You all may have heard this proverb which holds a
deep meaning; truly words can be a sword and a medicine to one. The way you
speak matters the most to the person you are speaking to. Expressing something
to making someone believe your words are two different things. Majorly to the
person you love, your life partner, to them your words really matter, when you
get angry or when you get hurt then your words may also change according to
your mindset at that very time. We do need some filters in our daily life
before expressing ourselves, like every day my parents remind me “think before
you speak” and really it had made a huge difference in my way of speaking. No
one in this world is perfect so there may come the time where you may hurt your
partner by your words. Here we are up with some of the ways by which you can
make your relationship towards the perfect path. Here you go with some of the
points that you should keep in mind while you speak or while you express
something to your partner.
1. Remember That You Say Truth
First
and foremost, just remember that what you are going to say is the truth,
question yourself before you express your feelings or whatever is in your mind.
You must know that the faith and trust is the foundation of any relationship
and if you are holding the bond of the life then you have a big meaning to it
for your life. Don't let those few words spoil the special bond that you both
have made with so efforts. Remember if it is not true then don't say it and
pour good words so they can feel good for your existence in their life.
2. Question Yourself Is It
Confidential?
Before
you say something to your partner you must think for a while that is it really
confidential? If someone tells you anything confidentially then it is your
responsibility not to share it with anyone else because the bond that you both
are sharing is different from others. Obviously, your thoughts are confined to yourself
and you can share it with your partner, that is why soul mates are made and
that is the real perk of having a life partner. So, discussing the things is
must but you should keep in mind the tone and the way of expressing it to your
spouse.
3. Make Sure That Your Words Won’t
Hurt
As
a spouse, you must know the likes and dislikes of your partner, keep in mind
the things which your partner does not like because that can jolt the pillar of
your relationship. You may go through with the ups and downs of your
relationship and maybe some quarrels which are as important as saying "I
love you" to each other. All you have to do is making sure that whatever
you say, even if you are angry, your words won't hurt your partner because your
relationship matters the most than those words.
4. Check If Your Words Have
Good Intentions
This
is an obvious thing that one must think before he/she speaks anything to
anyone. Keep in mind that whatever you say holds good intentions. Sometimes we
say something unintentionally but the second person may feel it in a wrong way,
this can also conclude to the certain misunderstanding between husband and
wife. Choose your words wisely so that it won’t hurt your partner and to
construct the bond deeper than before.
5. Does It Help to Cheer Up
Your Partner?
Life
isn't perfect all the time but if you have someone with whom you can share
everything then it surely becomes the one. Balancing and completing each other
is the beautiful truth of every relationship so that if one may feel weak other
stands by their side and helps to overcome those difficult situations in life.
Try to motivate your partner and choose the words which motivate them, you
should always remember that you should honor your spouse whether they are with
you or not because respect is must in every relationship, cheer them up with
your words.
6. Timing
Above
all of the things, you must keep in mind the timing, when and where you should
say all those things that you need to say. Put the transparency so that you can
share each and everything with your spouse freely. Most of the times your
partner expects to keep the talks personal and that should be kept personal
because it will guard your tongue against speaking evil that you may say when
you are angry or when you feel a bit choleric.